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Baby you have to live your life for yourself.

You only have one life to live, and you have to love the life that you live if you want it to be a happy one.

I didn’t say you had to love the circumstances of your life, you have to love YOUR LIFE.

You have to love yourself and everything about you.

Love your mistakes, because there is a lesson in each mistake. Love your flaws, because it’s what makes you human. If there are things about you that you don’t like, fix them. Work on your mind, your body and your spirit. Develop a real relationship with the creator of life. Find out what God has to say about you, start at Psalm 139, then go over to Psalm 23 and let the Lord lead you from there.

Start going hard for yourself. You are always going hard for the kids, your family, your job, your spouse, and your friends, but you never go hard for you.

Dress up, get really fly and treat yourself to a great dinner, go to a museum you’ve been thinking about, or go to the theater to see a show. Have a new experience by yourself. Book a trip, and invite folk to come along if they choose, and if they decide not to go, you still go and enjoy your me time.

Go to the book store and purchase a book that is designed to assist you in loving you MORE affectionately. Fall in love with yourself, respect yourself, honor yourself, forgive yourself, WORK on yourself.

Stop beating yourself up because of who you allowed to mishandle you, shake the dust off of your feet and see that unfortunate circumstance as a lesson learned.

Build from that lesson and NEVER go back there again.

It’s time for us to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and LIVE.

Let’s get ourselves together emotionally, whatever that means for you, do it. Go to therapy, talk it out with a professional. Sit on your friends couch, talk it out with them. Accept the roll you play in your own disappointments and vow to YOURSELF that you will STOP the self-sabotage. Forgive yourself! Forgive yourself! Forgive yourself! Each of us has played the fool, from the youngest to the oldest, no matter your social or financial status, each of us have played the fool, it’s really okay, that’s life. The issue is when we KEEP playing the fool. It has to stop, and it only stops when we begin to really love ourselves.

So many of us are living our lives in yesteryear, we really need to stop it and give ourselves a chance at life. Yes you were abused, yes your loved one left this earth and it hurts badly, but you’ve lived beyond the abuse and the passing of your loved one.

Don’t you think you deserve some peace?

Don’t you think you deserve to live a life full of hope, joy and love?

Yes it’s been hard to find a job in the field you really want to work in. But should you give up on your dreams just because you’ve gotten 100 no’s? I have a friend who got nothing but no’s for years. Although she kept getting no’s from places that looked promising, she stayed faithful to her vision for her life. She stayed passionate about what her future could be, and she didn’t give up. She stayed faithful to her plan for her life.

Guess what happened after years of no’s and tragic circumstances?

She finally got her YES!

Baby her yes was so amazing it literally threw her to the floor!

You HAVE to stay focused on your passion and your goals in the face of a no! You have to stay faithful to your dream in the face of discouragement and let downs.

I am not making light of your pain, but life is happening all around you and you haven’t moved pass your pain and disappointment yet.

STOP allowing it to make you stagnant! Stop making decisions based off of where you are presently! It’s NOT helping the you that you are becoming.

Honey it’s time to take a step toward happy.

It’s time to stop looking at your circumstances and making decisions based off of where you are. This kind of thinking will keep you stuck forever if you don’t change your mind.

Look at the big picture.

Where do you want to be in five years? If where you are does not look anything like where you want to be, why on EARTH would you make a decision based off of what you presently see? Does that make any kind of logical sense? NO! Sweetness, I want you to soar, I want us to soar and whatever soaring is to you, do that!

Time out for the pity party, time out for not knowing what we want to do. The devil is the father of confusion. If you are constantly confused, it’s time to ask yourself whose voice you are listening to.

Life isn’t perfect, there will be rough spots, but it’s a bad decision to make decisions from a rough spot.

You cannot drive a car safely when your front window is blurry, if the defrost isn’t working properly, you have to pull over to the side of the road and wipe the fog off of your window. Too many of us are walking around with foggy sight. It’s time to take a rest stop, pull over for a bit, clear your sight and keep it moving. Don’t keep moving forward with compromised vision, I guarantee you, you’re going to make a bad decision. There will be a wrong turn, you might even get in a head on collision with someone.

I understand how it feels when we get in rough spots and our vision gets blurred. When this happens, be STILL, be STILL and know who God is.

God said he has plans for you in Isaiah 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. This isn’t just a cliché, it’s not a phrase we just throw around when we are going through. This is the word of God!

The bible declares that heaven and earth will pass away, but the word of the Lord will endure forever!! You can bet money on this here thing! You can count on Gods word coming to pass in your life, we have to. We MUST mix faith with the word. How can we expect the word to be at work in our lives if we don’t believe it? How can we call ourselves children of GOD if we keep bowing our heads in sorrow each time life happens?

I know, I know, we are humans and we are weak at times, but that’s just an excuse. The word says in our weakness, God is made strong!

2 Corinthians 12:9–10 9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

This is the living word of God here, I didn’t make this up. This is life and the same resurrection power that raised Christ form the dead rest in you and I if we call ourselves born again Christians.

I just want to encourage you to LOVE your life! I mean love yourself so much, that you don’t tolerate another person taking you for granted. Love yourself so much that you don’t take anymore crap from yourself. Love yourself so much that you cater to your needs first sometimes. Love yourself so much that you begin to spend quiet time with God during your day. Make God a daily part of your routine. Steal away with God while you’re working, take a moment to pray in the morning or at night. Take God to lunch with you, meditate on Him as you eat.

Love yourself enough to tell people no. Love yourself enough to end relationships that have lasted beyond the expiration date.

Love yourself enough to invest in yourself.

I love you and I am praying for you!